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I live in a constant state of early 90s.
When college rock was good, and black people were still on TV.

     It gets even better…


Just when you thought you had seen it all, the Internet gods give you a quick “No, you gon really learn today bitch.”

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9:46 pm  •  15 April 2014  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     Today in gay white racists: Rape & “high tops.”

Racism is a really broad subject and there are so many ways to be a racist.  Today, we’re gonna swing from one extreme to the other, from a little Grindr flirtation I saw on Facebook to the Canadian tourist who got raped in Philadelphia.

Let’s start here:


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1:42 pm  •  13 April 2014  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     Is he *really* attractive? Or….


Is he attractive or is the hat making him look good? : A memoir

Well that’s a good start illumahottie, but we need to take it further.

Is he attractive, or is it the beard? : A self-study.

Is he attractive, or is his height confusing you? : A documentary.

Is he attractive, or did you see his tax return? : A Golddigger’s guide.

Is he attractive, or is the club closing in 15 min?  A thirsty treatise.

Is he attractive, or is he just white? : A Grindr exposé.


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6:31 pm  •  8 April 2014  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     Dream 90s proposal.

Let me be the Pam to your Charmaine…


…and the Whitley to your Dwayne.


See…now that’s how you really make the draws come off quick.  I just made my own perfect pickup line and now nobody is ever going to live up.  Let me just go on ahead and wife myself because Me & Me is the perfect relationship.

1:59 pm  •  28 January 2014  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     Hey look, another article that says nobody likes black people.

Are You Interested is a Facebook dating app that allows you to match yourselves up with strangers and message them.  Quartz decided to analyze the data to determine dating preferences based on race (because that’s always a good idea) and I was actually half-surprised.  I didn’t realize the overwhelming preference among most groups was to date outside of their race.

But of course, nobody wants to date the black woman, and the not-surprised half of me just rolled my eyes at this whole useless study.

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4:00 pm  •  23 November 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     I guess I can talk about that straight guy I picked up on the subway.

I’ve thrown a few Tweets out there into the universe about this guy I picked up last month, but I haven’t really put the whole story out there.  It’s been awhile since y’all have had a good personal yarn from me, so I’ll spin this real quick.

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8:00 pm  •  11 November 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     Random White Person: “I don’t really date black guys, but….”


I needed Miss Rosa Parks to bring some Civil Rights Movement Side Eye on this good day.

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2:00 pm  •  2 November 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     Straight people find dates online too.

When someone mentions online dating, I always think of Grindr because I’m gay and almost everyone I know has one and every club on a Saturday night contains a sea of people whose faces are lit up in that tacky orange color from starting up their Grindr app.  

Most people who use online dating sites and apps are straight though because most people period are straight.  As such, the most popular dating site is Match.com.  Straight people are going on dates and finding boyfriends and getting married, while the gays still think “lookin?” is an appropriate way to open up a conversation.  One thing we all have in common though:  Misrepresentation.  54% of online daters feel someone they’ve talked to seriously misrepresented themselves, so this is the perfect time to tell you about my last online “hookup.” 

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3:59 pm  •  23 October 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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