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I live in a constant state of early 90s.
When college rock was good, and black people were still on TV.

     Fall Hiatus “Wherever You Are”

Y’all.  My girl Shana done came in with the sneak attack and put up a track when nobody even knew she was working on music.


Having creative friends is so tricky because you want to support, but if it ain’t hot…it just ain’t hot.  And I can’t be associated with whackness.  This is hot though.  This is grown-folks’, Quiet Storm for 2013, incense in the afternoon reading bell hooks, velvet smoking jacket, deep-conditioning my hair for tomorrow’s twist-out, R&B for adults. I’m so proud of her and her producing partner Medik.

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1:59 pm  •  14 November 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     Patti Labelle has been screaming for 40 years.


I am so glad Patti did that Oprah's Next Chapter special because everybody is talking about her again and all is right with the world.  Y’all don’t even know.  I feel like Patti was my fairy godmother growing up.  I knew more Patti Labelle songs than nursery rhymes.  Hell, my gay uncle basically thought he was Patti Labelle so Patricia and I definitely have a bond.

I just needed to take some time to put my favorite Patti singles out there into the universe so I can bookmark and refer to this post when I need to catch the Holy Spirit from a high note and some well-placed Aquanet.

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7:59 pm  •  5 November 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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Zhane “Hey Mr. DJ”

I’m so glad this album exists.  This is my jam.

So.  Who wants to get together and be the hella dope gay male version of Zhane?  I really think we could go somewhere.  I just wanna put down some nice grooves and make the people bop their heads again.  Not enough people make head-nod jams these days.

5:00 pm  •  3 November 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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Flashback Friday: Aaliyah “Age Ain’t Nothing But A Number”

I was listening to Aaliyah on the train ride home last night and I was really feeling myself on this album, still knowing all the words, remembering 4th grade and thinking she was the coolest girl ever.  You know how it is when you sing along to a song for 15 years without ever really listening to the words?

Age ain’t nothin but a number
(Well…it depends on what age we’re talking about here)

And we will feel the passion that flows within
(How old was she?  Who wrote this?)

And let me show you to ecstasy

Y’all, she recorded this album (that R. PeeOnChildren Kelly wrote) at 14.  Where were her parents?  Why didn’t anybody say “Why is this grown-ass man writing about passion and ecstasy for a 9th grader?”  TBH, I can’t even look at the cover of this album anymore, because Robert Kelly is blurry in the background, creeping like a stalker and I get weirded out.

Damn if he didn’t write some jams though…

10:00 am  •  1 November 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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Flashback Friday: Portrait “Here We Go Again”

This is absolutely one of the smoothest beats to come out of the New Jack Swing era and it’s such a squeaky clean song too.  When I start getting my Songs to Teach My Kids About When Music Was Good playlist together, I’ll have to remember to put this on the Before They Turn 14 list.  Clearly I can’t have my kids listening to R. Kelly or Jodeci until they’re in high school, but this is cute and G-rated.

Plus, they played it at the prom on Family Matters, so you know it was good and wholesome.

10:00 am  •  18 October 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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Flashback Friday: Mona Lisa “Can’t Be Wasting My Time”

I have known every single words to this song for almost 20 years now and that makes me feel old as hell.  I really thought Mona Lisa was gonna hang right in there with Brandy, Monica & Aaliyah, but she just dropped off the planet after this.

Can we just take a minute to ponder on the fact that 16-year-old girls were forever putting out grown folks R&B music back in the 90s?  The production on this song is hella mature, Aaliyah was covering the Isley Brothers, and Monica sang like a daggum 30-year-old church lady.  

Fast forward to today, and Avril Lavigne is like 47 still making teen pop punk.

2:00 pm  •  4 October 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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     Album Reviews: Tamar Braxton “Love and War”


Tamar’s “second debut” album is certainly no Toni Braxton…but that’s not always a bad thing.

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7:41 pm  •  10 September 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

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Flashback Friday: Anita Baker “Body & Soul”

I’ve been listening to a lot of R&B’s Favorite Auntie this week after I got hip to how fresh her Twitter is.

What’s really interesting to me about 90s videos is, Anita in this video is only three years older than Beyonce and Christina Aguilera are now.  Can you imagine either of them being this grown? I feel like female singers try really hard to stay “young” for a really long time nowadays.  I wouldn’t mind a little more grown-folks music.

1:34 pm  •  30 August 2013  •   Let's talk about what you think.

| anita baker| beyonce| christina aguilera| 90s| music| music videos| r and b| flashback friday|

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