Natural Hair Nazis
It’s that time of year again, time to give a collective eyeroll to the whole elitist natural hair movement. Look what I got in my inbox.

Thank you, Sista Scalp Treatment, but you do not know me.
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4:53 pm • 15 May 2013 •  
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Are “whites only” & “no blks no azns” dating profiles actually racist?

I like to make jokes about it because it’s such a *thing* that you can’t help but laugh. To me, I just don’t understand it. How can you not be attracted to any person who is not white? How can you look at the wide variety of black men on this planet and say they are all uniformly unattractive? I think that’s crazy and it makes me chuckle.
But is it really racist? Let’s look at it from both sides.
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12:57 pm • 8 May 2013 •  
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Rambling Wednesdays: Guys with restricted diets are the worst.
I’ll try anything once and there’s probably a 70% chance that I’ll like it. I don’t consider myself a foodie or even the most well-rounded eater because I do have things that I don’t like:
- olives
- cucumbers (except sushi dishes)
- watermelon (all melon really, but especially watermelon)
- coconut flakes
- beets (except a really good beet salad)
But you see how small the list is? If your list of things you do like is the same length as my list of dislikes, then this just ain’t gon’ work.
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1:50 pm • 24 April 2013 •  
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Rambling Wednesdays: We’ve pretty much decided spanking is deplorable, right?
Or is there still debate? Are you automatically a horribly abusive barbarian if you’re not anti-corporal punishment? Because I still plan on spanking my kids…mostly because I got spanked and I came out a-mah-zing. (Just trying to throw out Happy Endings references whenever I can since they are forever trying to cancel the best show on television.)
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6:20 pm • 3 April 2013 •  
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Rambling Wednesdays: Anti-gay bigots are STILL obsessed with gay sex.
When I don’t like something, I don’t talk about it.
Wait, scratch that, because I talk about Rihanna like every five minutes, so I’ll rephrase.
When something disgusts me, I don’t talk about it. Like……..spacedocking. Don’t look that up. But if you do look it up, do you now want to sit and have a conversation about it? Or would you like to forget that it ever existed and pretend nobody would ever do that?
This is the angle I would think anti-gay conservatives would take toward the whole gay marriage thing. OK, so you’re a bigot, and your version of White Republican Jesus says gay people will burn in hell and society will crumble because two men are getting married. Why would you spend all that time talking about gay SEX instead of gay MARRIAGE?
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3:40 pm • 13 March 2013 •  
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Rambling Wednesdays: Can white people throw the Race Card?
On the last episode of Love & Hip-Hop, the lone white girl on the show got into it with another castmate, because that’s what you do on reality TV to get ratings. Near the end of the fight, Jen the Pen dropped a bomb that nobody expected:

“I’m white honey; it will get done.”
The internet roasted this girl, but are we being overly sensitive?
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6:50 pm • 13 February 2013 •  
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Rambling Wednesdays: Gay dating in the South versus New York City
For anyone who doesn’t know, I was born and raised in the South. I left some years ago though, before I really started having a gay social life (Read: before I moved somewhere with enough homosexuals to find ones I could have sex with.)
Let’s talk about some of these differences I’ve noticed when it comes to the gay network, Grindr, black guys, and dating in general.
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7:01 pm • 6 February 2013 •  
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