Looks like y’all dragged Remy Ma for not being all that bothered by non-Black people using the n-word. I’m gonna attempt to explain that viewpoint, not on behalf of all or even most Black people, but there is a real corner of the community that really isn’t that bothered. TBH…….I think there are way more New Yorkers who don’t really care than will publicly admit because I swear to god nobody says “nigga” more than a 16 or 17 year old Puerto Rican or Dominican from Washington Heights or the Bronx, esPECIALLY the girls.
I grew up in the South. If you say anything that even SOUNDS like the n-word, I’m ready to fight.
A White: **mumble mumble**
Me: WHAT THE FUCK DID YOU SAY???
A White: Dude I said Nintendo! Do you want to play Mario!
Me: Well…enunciate better before you get popped.
That’s how I grew up.
I moved up here ten years ago and it’s nigganigganigganigga all day on the 6, on the A, walking around the Heights, working in the Bx. You cannot escape non-Black people saying nigga all day every day and you can’t fight or get mad at everybody. You become immune. It becomes part of the urban slang, part of the lexicon of brown neighborhoods.
Cardi B. got lucky.
I love her, y’all know I’m Bardigang 100%, but come on — that girl did NOT identify as any part of the African Diaspora until she got famous. She was just another Dominican chick from the Heights and 75% of them get mad tight when you imply that they come from slaves too. But they all use the n-word, including her. She pulled out that Trinidadian card so fast and we gave her a pass, because she’s so hood. And that’s where I am with the n-word. It’s partly cultural.
JLo is Puerto Rican.
I guarantee her 23 & Me has a good chunk of African ancestry. But when she said the n-word, the backlash was swift and she never did it again, because she’s pop. She’s not hood. She might have grown up in the Bronx, but she left that behind, and she doesn’t *look* like us. Cardi has my hair. She talks like the girls on the corner. She’s hood, she’s hard, she’s culturally closer to “nigga” being part of her lexicon than JLo, so after the backlash, we gave her a pass.
For a lot of Black people, there’s race and there’s culture, and both of them have a place in the n-word conversation. Ben Carson is Black. Fat Joe is Puerto Rican & Cuban. If I’m chopping it up with both of them, I’m more offended if Ben Carson drops the n-word than Fat Joe.
So when we say only Black people can use it, technically that applies to a huge chunk of Latinos because they share the same African gene pool, but so many of them deny that ancestry, so it shouldn’t count anymore since they’re not embracing their Blackness. When we say only Black people can use it, technically that applies to all Black people, but there is a very real segment of Black America who would not be saying “nigga” as “my dude” and it would feel distinctly out of place and/or offensive (Bill Cosby, Stacy Dash, Don Lemon, etc.) And there’s a middle part, where the culture is there but the Blackness isn’t, and that’s Puerto Rican high school girls on the 6 who will literally die if they don’t say nigga every 13 seconds.
So, as far as the n-word goes, there are
Black people who say only Black people can say it.
Black people who say nobody should say it.
Black people who say anybody can say it – it’s just a word.
And there are Black people who take each person on a case-by-case basis. Some Black people CAN’T say it, and some non-Black people CAN – maybe they shouldn’t, but it’s not bothersome enough to get mad about when they do. That Remy, and a lot of other people who won’t admit they feel the same.
Oh, btw, none of this applies to white people. You can grow up in Brownsville and I will still push you into oncoming traffic for saying the n-word.
Dean Browning…Dan Purdy…and a plot twist!
Blackfishing took a wild ride today!
Pay close attention, because this is a rollercoaster!
In case you don’t know what blackfishing is, the term was first applied to white Instagram “models” who augment their looks to such a degree that they try to pass as light-skinned or biracial Black women for clout and sponsorships from Black brands. Here’s Swedish Instagram model Emma Hallberg for reference:
We’ve also been witness to the rise of white people in academic or activist circles posing as Black people or people of color to give their points of view more weight. Rachel Dolezal is the poster-child, but we’ve seen a number of professors — Jessica Krug and Craig Chapman most notably — outed this year for being just regular ol’ white folks pretending to be minorities.
Further down that chain we have anonymous accounts on social media pretending to be Black people. White racists and Conservatives from across MAGA Nation pretend to be Black online so they can spew racist views from a “Black” person and have their words picked up by the masses.
It’s not a racist white man saying Black people are violent criminals! It’s one of their own so it must be true!
Today…one got found out…and it has truly been a ride. Buckle up for safety!
This is Dean Browning.
His Twitter bio says “Former Lehigh County Commissioner. A proud pro-life & pro-2A Christian conservative dedicated to enacting common sense solutions to Keep America Great.” Check out this deleted conversation from earlier today.
The first one seems like something a Conservative from Pennsylvania would say, but then he forgot to log out of his regular account and into his “anonymous” account before chiming in with a voice from the Black community. Twitter quickly lit his ass up and he went viral because that’s the kind of mistake you rarely see. Dean deleted the tweet, but screencaps are forever, so he tried to mitigate the damage with a weak I was quoting someone else excuse.
But that doesn’t feel right, because this Dan Purdy is clearly a fake account that uses the “I’m Black and gay!” line over and over to make his terrible points stick.
But wait! The real Dan Purdy has decided to weigh in!
If he deletes that, someone let me know and I’ll upload the video because of course I saved it just in case.
EDIT: His account is already suspended so here’s the video.
So what’s going on here? Did Dan Purdy really reach out to Dean Browning and express that opinion? It’s hard to fight visual evidence, but the Internet does not take such revelations lightly and some people believe Dean hired an actor to make that video. I’m not saying I believe it, but it’s hard to argue with the fact that this isn’t even the first fake Dan Purdy account. The first one got suspended and that one didn’t even pretend to be gay and Black initially: It was a white man going by Pat Riarchy
lmao this isn't even Dean Browning's first "Dan Purdy" account. his last one was suspended. via google cache: pic.twitter.com/Fk4nU89rR6— Matt Binder (@MattBinder) November 10, 2020
so from googling it would appear @deanbrowningpa's black guy identity "Dan Purdy" was also once used on the suspended account @soulcookie322. but before that account became Dan Purdy, it was a white guy named "Pat Riarchy" and "White Goodman". dean is really something else pic.twitter.com/gFkUPkNDPV— food truck drove away with my debit card (@fart) November 10, 2020
So it looks like this man in the video is just some random guy Dean Browning found to cover his ass.
Except! Except! We can find that guy, with the same avatar and everything, on Facebook and his name is William “Byl” Holte.
OK. So. There’s a guy by the name of Byl Holte who has been posing under the name Dan Purdy online, first as a white MAGA patriot that got suspended from the platform. In his current iteration, he is indeed Black and gay, but still Conservative, and sent a message of support to his friend, good ol’ Dean, who copy/pasted directly instead of adding any quotations.
I think that’s what happened here.
Oh one more thing: Do you know any famous people with the last name Holte? The only one I can think of is Patricia Holte, who now goes by Patti Labelle. Right, that’s the thing — William is her son!
For any journalist who needs receipts, I have literally hundreds - DM me— William LeGate 🇺🇸 (@williamlegate) November 10, 2020
MISS PATTI WE NEED A SONG ABOUT THIS!
WHERE ARE MY BACKUP SINGERS!
Young white murderers are little boys. Young Black victims are grown men.
Racism, the assumptions around Black people, and the perceptions of Black children are all baked into the fabric of this country, and Conservative White America keeps that oven turned up every single day.
Kyle Rittenhouse is a 17-year-old wannabe policeman who carried an AR-15 across state lines to feel masculine, patriotic, and important, and he ultimately killed two people and injured another. Former Attorney General of Florida Pam Bondi says he’s just a little boy who was protecting his community.
He wasn’t protecting his community — he lives half an hour away. He had to have his mother drive him there.
He’s not a little kid — he’ll be 18 in December, old enough to vote and go to war.
He’s not a victim — protesters wouldn’t have been chasing him if he hadn’t shown up from out of town carrying a rifle that he legally wasn’t supposed to have anyway.
This is what Conservative White America watches all day, celebrations and exaltations of white murderers contrasted with demonizations and vilifications of Black victims. And when the murderer is young, Conservative White America rallies around them to magnify their youth and exaggerate their innocence. Kyle Rittenhouse is a murderer who gets to be a “little boy” and Dylann Roof is a murderer who gets to be a “sweet kid” but our young victims don’t have that luxury.
Michael Brown was 18 years old.
His murderer, who is the same height as Michael Brown, said he wasn’t a boy — he was a demon — and it was like wrestling with Hulk Hogan. (x)
Trayvon Martin was 17 years old.
He was walking home from the store when his murderer decided to stalk him, confront him, and then kill him because he was afraid of a child. (x)
Tamir Rice was 12 years old.
He and Kyle Rittenhouse are similar in that they were both carrying guns. Of course, Tamir’s was a toy and he was shot seconds after officers saw it, because what they thought they saw was a grown man carrying a deadly weapon. Officers on the scene said he was “maybe 20.” (x)
Law enforcement starts to see Black children as older than white children starting around 10 years old. After that, Black children have an extra four years tacked on to their age (on average), and when that Black child is accused of a crime, he’s more likely to be assumed guilty.
“Children in most societies are considered to be in a distinct group with characteristics such as innocence and the need for protection. Our research found that black boys can be seen as responsible for their actions at an age when white boys still benefit from the assumption that children are essentially innocent,” said author Phillip Atiba Goff, PhD, of the University of California, Los Angeles. The study was published online in APA’s Journal of Personality and Social Psychology®.
We talk about defunding the police in the context of unlawful police shootings and racially motivated police brutality, and the counterarguments focus on reforming the police instead: They just need more training. They just need to learn more de-escalation strategies. There’s no training that will change 400 years of racially charged propaganda that has painted Black people, males especially, as aggressive, criminal, brutes. There’s no training that will suddenly make police officers see Black children as Black children when 400 years of media and history has painted Black kids as older and more dangerous than they are because Black people in general are framed as more dangerous and more aggressive than white people. Racism, the assumptions around Black people, and the perceptions of Black children are all baked into the fabric of this country, and Conservative White America keeps that oven turned up every single day.
Black people cannot sway an election.
Handwringing by Embarrassed Whites over the Black vote has to die. Y’all lost the 2016 election because you didn’t do enough to convince your families and social circles that Trump would destroy the country.
There’s a white lady on Twitter with a very long thread about the 2016 election that I am absolutely not going to read, because all I needed was this:
What Black Americans do significantly affects the United States. Indeed, it's her own, very famous, thesis that this is insignificantly appreciated. In 2016, many Black Americans didn't vote at all. Had they done so, Trump wouldn't be in power. pic.twitter.com/csVZh8A4Oe— Claire Berlinski. (@ClaireBerlinski) August 31, 2020
In case she deletes the tweet, because sometimes people do that online when they’re getting dragged, Claire Berlinski said Donald Trump would not be President if Black people who voted for Obama had turned out in the same numbers for Hillary. I see variations of that all the time, trying to shift the blame for Trump onto Black people instead of examining it where it lay, with racist whites. White people blaming us for the election are embarrassed to be associated with them, so they deflect, but Black people don’t exist in large enough numbers to have the kind of impact these Embarrassed Whites want to imagine. Very very simple math proves this, so let’s just get it out of the way up top.
In 2016, 11% of Black people who had voted for Obama didn’t vote at all. 12% of white people who had voted for Obama voted for Trump. The US population is 63.4% white and 13.4% Black. There are almost five times as many white people in this country as Black people, so let’s apply that to the graph she posted.
For simpler math, say the top bar shows 100 white people, which would mean the bottom bar would show 21 Black people, because that’s our ratio in this country. You see where this is going already I’m sure. This means 12 white Obama voters voted for Trump while TWO Black Obama voters didn’t vote at all. Embarrassed Whites want to shift blame from 12 white people to 2 Black people because it makes them feel better about not addressing politics with their relatives and acquaintances.
That part is factual — the original graph is from an article on the Washington Post. What I’m about to say next is more conjecture based on common knowledge that’s already out there because I don’t have the research background (time, really) to pull the numbers on all of this. Take what you know about gerrymandering, about housing discrimination, and about redlining, and apply that to the numbers. We don’t have a 1 person = 1 vote system. We have an electoral system where 100 people are consolidated into 1 vote based on who the majority of that 100 wanted.
51 people vote A. 49 people vote B. A wins.
51 people vote A. 49 people vote B. A wins again.
10 people vote A. 90 people vote B. B wins.
The votes are 112 to 188, but A wins the whole shebang because A won twice. (That’s how Trump won.) Because of the aforementioned gerrymandering, housing discrimination, and redlining, most of the Black people are sitting in the 90 person block of people who voted for B. Every Black person in America could have voted in 2016, and it would not have had the effect on the election that Embarrassed Whites like to pretend it would have because the US electoral system has consolidated our voting power into tiny blocs cordoned off from the rest of the population.
Harlem is going to vote Democrat. The equivalent of Harlem in Dallas or Birmingham or Memphis is going to vote Democrat. You can convince another few thousand Black people to go vote for your candidate in the Harlems across the country, and it didn’t do anything to tip the balance of the election because Candidate A has still won two contests. It’s only increasing the margin of victory for Candidate B in one result. There aren’t enough Black people in these 95% white voting districts (dotted all across the country in red states with more cows than people) to say, “well if Black people voted we wouldn’t be here.” You’ll have one extra Black vote in Montana for every 20 extra Black votes in Harlem.
Handwringing by Embarrassed Whites over the Black vote has to die. Y’all lost the 2016 election because you didn’t do enough to convince your families and social circles that Trump would destroy the country. You are going to lose the 2020 election for that same reason if you keep worrying about what we are doing over here. Spend less time focusing on Black turnout and more time convincing your communities that they need to go vote. Ours has been taken advantage of, disappointed enough, and blamed so many times that we have honestly earned the right to say “screw this, y’all fix it, I’m tired.”
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