I cook for myself a lot. If there’s something I want to eat, I can usually find a way to make it. Sometimes I cook with other people who have varying levels of skill, but we can find our way through it and the meal (usually) turns out pretty well. A few days ago I was like, “I really want guacamole and it’s pretty simple to make.” I made plans to hang out with my friend and he brought all the ingredients to my house. It was surprisingly good and then I made dinner after…which wasn’t a RESOUNDING success (because I cooked the chicken a little too high) but it was still edible and enjoyable. All in all, the whole culinary experience was maybe a 7 on a scale of 1 to 10 — not the best meal I’ve ever made, but better than average. Most of the meals I cook, whether by myself or with another person, aren’t the best meal I’ve ever had, but they’re always edible.
Back when I had a good job, I wanted a really good steak and I found a friend who wanted one too. We were willing to shell out some big bucks because we literally wanted the best steak we had ever had. We didn’t want to experiment, mess it up, and possibly disappoint ourselves. We wanted a chef who knew exactly what he was doing to make us the best steak we had ever had. We went to Quality Italian in Midtown and spent over $300 on dinner, which is A LOT of money for someone in my income bracket, but you know what? I still talk about that steak. I think about that steak. I can’t wait until the day I can afford that steak again because I will absolutely pay for that entire meal all over again.
Even if you wouldn’t spend $300 on one meal, even if you would rather cook for yourself 100% of the time, you have a frame of reference for it and you can understand why a person who is perfectly capable of feeding themselves would pay someone else a lot of money for a truly memorable experience.
Apply that logic to sex.
I saw this image on Twitter…
…and I’m just annoyed at the idea that we’re still trying to shame people who pay for sex, that there is something inherently wrong with paying someone to do a service they like to provide.
If I get hungry, I can cook for myself, by myself.
If I want to get off, I can pleasure myself, by myself.
If I get hungry and I want to eat with someone, I can find someone to come over and cook with me.
If I want to get off with someone else, I can find someone to have sex with.
If I want the best meal I have ever had from someone who has studied exactly what I want, I can find a chef who specializes in that and pay them a lot of money to give me a memorable experience I could not replicate by myself or with any of the people who would cook with me.
If I want the best sex I have ever had from someone who has studied whatever kink or possesses whatever body type I want, I can find a sex worker who specializes in that or looks like that, and I can pay them a lot of money to give me a memorable experience I could not have through masturbation or through my own ability to find and seduce that.
The most ridiculous thing about this movement to shame prostitution is the fact that the same men behind these ideas masturbate — frequently! — to porn. They are masturbating to imagery of people who were paid to have sex or be sexual. Even if they didn’t pay directly, somebody did because everybody’s not out here jacking off to leaked nudes or free cam footage. If you are making money (working) from sex, you are a sex worker. If you are consuming sex produced for money, you are paying sex workers. If you are shaming people who have sex with clients for money, you’re a dummy jacking off to a screen who could have just paid someone directly to cook you the best meal of your life.
Porn has six weeks left on OnlyFans.
OnlyFans is kicking adult content to the curb in order to court investors.
I’m so heated. This is so stupid and hypocritical and disrespectful.
OnlyFans is banning porn, the company announced today. It’s a surprise move meant to protect its partnerships with banks and payment providers. The platform will still allow creators to post nude photos and videos, but not any “sexually explicit conduct.” The change goes into effect starting in October.
The decision comes as the London-based company has reportedly been struggling to raise new funding, because investors are either cautious that it might be hosting content containing minors, or because they’re contractually prohibited from investing in adult content. But being a major platform for adult creators, OnlyFans risks alienating the very users who made it big in the first place.
Let’s rewind for a second.
David Karp founded micro-blogging platform tumblr in 2007. From 2007 to 2013, the platform exploded. It was a little bit Twitter and a little bit Instagram and a little bit LiveJournal, and the combination worked for a wide variety of users, from image-based creators to long-form writers. It made a large range of content easily shareable and searchable, and it was one of the big social platforms you would use to connect with others or to push your own voice out to the masses.
(And make friends! I just met one of my old tumblr followers at the beach this weekend after he recognized my roommate — hey Turner! xoxo)
In 2013, it was such a prized asset in the tech world, Yahoo! bought the company for $1.1 billion. And then everything changed.
Part of tumblr’s skyrocketing success was due to its unofficial home for creators of adult content. It wasn’t just filming yourself for X-tube or writing a story for Nifty, because the social component meant you could more easily interact with the people who enjoyed your content. Users had the freedom to create along with the ability to connect. It was a safe(r) space for NSFW fare aimed at and created by communities marginalized by mainstream porn.
Neither tumblr nor Yahoo! wanted to admit that a large part of the success of the platform was dependent upon adult content, so Yahoo! was not prepared to find a way to keep those creators. They wanted to grow the platform even more and push it further in a mainstream direction, and you cannot do that while hosting porn. There’s no PornHub download in the AppStore. You can’t show your pubes in your Grindr photo because it’s a mainstream app, and Google & Apple make the rules for censorship. Apple decides nudity is a no-no, so tumblr can’t have nudity on its platform. It’s that simple. Tumblr banned adult content, and a third of its users disappeared immediately. In 2019, just six years after the porn ban, this platform that had just sold for $1.1 billion at the beginning of the decade was picked up by WordPress for three million dollars.
So, this news from OnlyFans is only surprising in the sense that we already saw this happen to tumblr, so does OnlyFans think they will be different? This embarrassingly swift fall from grace happened to a platform whose brand identity was closer to Instagram than XHamster, and yet they completely tanked without porn. OnlyFans as a site is amateur porn. That’s why we know about it! That’s how it makes cameos in pop songs and stand-up comedy routines. For all the porn that popped up on tumblr, it was still seen as a micro-blogging platform that happened to have adult content as well. Most people have no idea that OnlyFans is ever anything other than porn. That is their brand identity, so how do they expect to survive without adult content?
But I don’t care about businesses making bad decisions that will destroy their company. I could not care less about millionaires losing money. I’m upset because sex workers are once again being shit on by people who pretend adult content is dirty or sex is taboo or porn stars are less than. The vast majority of us are sitting here because our parents wanted to have sex and did so. Sex is the reason OnlyFans is even in a position to court investors and banks to give them more money, but they want respectable money now, so to hell with the sex workers who built the visibility of the platform in the first place. Everybody loves porn until it’s time to respect the people who made it.
All of the men involved with kicking porn off OnlyFans are hypocrites. Because we know they jack off. And we know they use porn to do it. But porn is still taboo because nobody wants to say they masturbate. We all masturbate. The fact that OnlyFans is so popular is evidence of that, so why is it so shameful to be associated with a company that facilitates arousal?
It’s so ridiculous and I can’t wait for OnlyFans to crash and burn as quickly as possible. Let me go find someplace else where I can tip the hotties for their good works. We are still in a pandemic. If you are getting railed on camera in the midst of Delta for my benefit, you deserve a couple of dollars at least.
I just read an article about the history of OnlyFans and I think it’s important to highlight that, unlike tumblr, OnlyFans was created specifically for sex workers. Timothy Stokely already had two adult oriented websites on his resume before he started OnlyFans. He saw Instagram users promoting their adult content which they’d then have to sell person to person. Stokely knew there was money to be made by creating a place where those creators could post their stuff instead of selling nudes in the DMs, and OnlyFans was born.
Insider: OnlyFans seeks funding, plots to move away from adult content
The online platform, which charges users a subscription to view pictures and videos of celebrities, influencers, and adult-film stars, was teaming up with an advisor to bolster interest from investors, one of the sources told Bloomberg. The source wanted to remain anonymous because the talks were private.
The source also said the advisor was helping OnlyFans become a more mainstream online media site, and that it hoped to move away from its reputation for adult content.
Did everyone at OnlyFans forget how quickly Tumblr became obsolete after they banned adult material? And that was a *free* platform.
Does OnlyFans really think there are enough people who will “pay for access” to their favorite celebrities? When we’re living in an era with the MOST access to stars because they’re all posting social media every five minutes?
“Happy anniversary to this great moment in incel history”
They all just wanna be Chad.
Happy anniversary to this great moment in incel history pic.twitter.com/DPPWCkALjO— Natalia Antonova (@NataliaAntonova) May 18, 2021
He’s mad at her for not thinking he’s a hot enough Chad to swipe right on and also mad at her for engaging with him for being funny and interesting, despite the fact that he’s not hot.
Incel rage at women is just misplaced jealousy toward hot men. They all just wanna be Chad.
If women are shallow for only going after hot, mean, alpha guys, but they’re ALSO shallow when you’re able to grab their attention for your personality, then the problem isn’t women! The problem is men wanting women to fall at their feet because women should be so taken with a man’s hotness and sexual prowess regardless of what that man looks like.
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